Alexandra

Breaking free.

 

You know what to do. You know what people expect of you and you often know which way that seems right. "This is how it should be done". "This is what you do". In my age you're supposed to have a job, have good grades, have time for fun parties and activities with friends, get your driver's license, plan your future, sleep and so on. As a person in general you should be fun, out going and polite. As a friend, you should be honest and easily available. As a daughter, you should be compromiseable. Suppose is a word that controls our world. There are already set up patterns that we're born in, this is the way it's supposed to be in a particular order. No question marks. This is how the society looks like, adapt.

 

Everywhere we read about how we should be ourselves. Universities are looking for unique people. What I'm asking myself is... Where are we? Where am I? Am I in the pattern I should be in, or am I the odd puzzel piece? People who stand out, Blondinbella for example, is hated by so many. Many people can't stand that she's not like others. That she dropped school and chose her own entreprenuer path, and thanks to that became a millionare and also has the good fortune to work with something that she is passionate about, apparently irritate people if you look at the comments she recieve on her posts. Is there a way to be in between? Do you have to be dramatically different to succeed and to do something you love for a living (and most likely get criticized), or do you slavely have to follow the pattern that doesn't feel you?

 

I don't know about you, but critics is something I've considered as negative for a long time. (Critics... Here we have the word "supposed" again.) But what I'm learning is... Critics may hurt but you have to realize that it is nothing but feed back in ugly words. It doesn't necessarily mean what you're doing is wrong (people always see things from their own perspectives and perceptions). Don't let the fear of getting hurt by doing what you love stop you.

You will get criticized. At your first real job, in school, at home, by friends, boy- or girlfriends. No matter what you do, there will always be always people who think you're in the wrong pattern. What people have to learn... Is that we're born and raised in our own patterns and opinions should be aloud to be expressed. Just... Don't let the opinions guide you to something you're not. You see?

 

Find the right combination of developing in the pattern with people you're surrounded by, just don't forget to bring your soul, your personality. Afterall, the only one who makes the decisions in your life: is you.